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Don’t forget to be Kind to yourself too: Practice some self – care📷 Learn something new Write down 3 things you like about yourself Reward yourself for a job well done Be good to your body and have a workout Feed your mind and body with a new healthy recipe Carve out some time each day to focus on yourself Forgive yourself and move on Honour your dreams and goals Stop striving for perfection and tell yourself “ I am enough, I am worthy, and I deserve to be happy” Like Comment Comments Steve Beer Write a comment... Steve Beer Admin · 47 mins Here are some great ideas of how you can spread a little Kindness: Call a friend who you haven’t spoken to for a while📷 Post a card or letter to someone you are out of touch with Offer to help out a neighbour with their shopping, errands or dog walking Check in on someone who might be going through a hard time Praise a colleague for a job well done Make someone a cup of tea and offer a listening ear Share something beautiful like a photo from your walk Teach someone something new Donate – your time, money or goods to someone who needs it more Send a care package to someone who needs it

Why Kindness Matters What if I could share some information with you, that will transform your life and the lives of others for the better. Would that be useful to you? Imagine having more self-confidence, motivation and a purposeful life. Well, you can now, because what I would like to share with you is this: Your kindness matters. It is in giving that you will receive. Now, I am not saying that practising daily RAOK (Random Acts Of Kindness) will change your life, but it changed my life and my family’s lives, and has helped transform the lives of thousands of families, communities and people from around the globe. WHY KINDNESS MATTERS: When you do your 30 Day Challenge, one of the many positive benefits for you and others when practising daily kindness is that your body releases a hormone called Oxytocin – the ‘feel good’ hormone. Now, I don’t know about you, but I like to feel good all of the time. Simple acts of kindness that some people take for granted, like smiling at random people, opening doors, letting somebody go before you in the queue etc, can have a massive impact on your day and other people’s days, too. HERE’S THE THING: “Kindness very rarely costs a thing, but the value is priceless.” – John Magee THE BENEFITS OF KINDNESS Makes us happier Gives us healthier hearts Slows the age process Makes for better relationships It’s contagious – in a good way Reduces stress and anxiety Helps with depression “What you do comes back to you.” Whether you like it or not, when you are kind to others, you are kind to yourself, and your kind actions ALWAYS come back to you. It’s been scientifically proven that it takes 21 days to create a new habit. When committing to do the 30 Day Challenge, you will form a new habit, and you will reap the positive consequences of your actions. WHY YOUR KINDNESS MATTERS: When you take the 30 Day Challenge, you will receive many psychological benefits. More importantly, you become the change that you want to see in the world. On behalf of myself, my family and our global community, thank you for your kindness and doing the 30 Day Challenge. Let me sign off by sharing with you one of my favourite affirmations that I live by. “A greeting, gesture or a giggle…. Leave other people feeling better than before they met you.” – John Magee ‘Go on’ start the 30 Day Challenge today and make the world a kinder place 🙂 [click here] Like Comment Comments Steve Beer Write a comment...

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Peyton was an amazing boy. He had beautiful red hair, piercing hazel eyes that changed from green to blue, and a quirky sense of humor. He was born at 31 weeks gestation and weighed only 2.52 lbs. He spent 35 days in the NICU before being able to come home. While in the hospital, he spent 3 weeks on pure oxygen. What wasn’t known then was that the oxygen was causing a discoloration in the enamel of his permanent teeth – a problem that we wouldn’t see for several years. In second grade, the teasing began. “Why don’t you brush your teeth?” Why are your teeth so nasty?” and many other hurtful questions and comments were made. You see, although his teeth were healthy, they were a mottled yellow color, kind of like the color of a popcorn kernel. He was also picked on because of his hair, his glasses and the fact that he was smaller than most of the other boys. He was seen as weak and became a target. As Peyton got older, he often wondered why people were so mean to him and to others. He would ask his mother, Jacki, “Mom, why can’t people just be nice?” She never really knew how to answer that question, so she tried to encourage him to be the nice one. She also told him all the things a parent tells a child – that he was special, that he was smart, that he was loved. However, as Peyton became a pre-teen, the words of a parent began to pale in comparison to the words of his peers. In November of 2013, Peyton had his first suicidal event. He had been continually tormented by several boys at his school and the school couldn’t or didn’t help him, or at least they didn’t help him in a way that he could see and feel. After days of comments of everyone else being better off without him his mother took him to the hospital. He soon began therapy and seemed to be feeling better. But this was short-lived. In the summer of 2014, his mother – a teacher – got a new job in a better school district, but this meant Peyton would have to change schools. His parents tried to help him see that this was a new beginning and that the bullies from his previous school would be a thing of the past. As he started 8th grade at his new school, he met one boy with whom he had common interests and they became friends. However, the teasing and bullying continued at this school too. Peyton was an easy target because he didn’t like what other kids liked. He didn’t play sports, he loved Dr. Who, YouTube and anime, and would rather read a book than play outside. He was soon being called a “loser” or a “geek.” He was devastated. On October 8, after an incident at his school the day before, Peyton and his mom came home from school. Peyton went into his room, as typical of teenage boys. His mom thought he just needed some time alone. After about 20 minutes, she went to check on him and found him. He had hung himself from the ceiling fan. There was no warning and no note. After a frantic call to 911 and 25 minutes of CPR by paramedics, Peyton was transported to the local hospital and then taken by helicopter to Dell Children’s Hospital in Austin, TX. The doctors did everything they could to stabilize him and to allow him to heal, but the injury to his brain was just too severe. On October 13, 2014 at 12:02 in the morning, Peyton was pronounced brain dead. At 8:30 that night, he gave his last and most profound gift by donating his organs, corneas and skin. He saved the lives of 6 people and enhanced the lives of countless others. Peyton is loved and missed by everyone who knew him and thousands of people that never had the chance to meet him. It is through his memory that Kindness Matters was born and it will be his legacy.

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Can kindness, love and a strong sense of community actually make you healthier and happier? Research says that it does. A 1978 study looking at the link between high cholesterol and heart health in rabbits determined that kindness made the difference between a healthy heart and a heart attack. Kelli Harding, a professor of psychiatry at Columbia University Medical Center, revisits that research and other ground-breaking discoveries in her new book, The Rabbit Effect: Live Longer, Happier, and Healthier with the Groundbreaking Science of Kindness. She joined the Knowledge@Wharton radio show on Sirius XM to talk about the intangible factors behind good health and how a little kindness can go a long way. (Listen to the podcast at the top of this page.) An edited transcript of the conversation follows. Knowledge@Wharton: As you were researching your book, what did you find about the role that positive emotional connections play in good health? Kelli Harding: As a physician, I was completely shocked. Most of us, when we think about health, we think about diet, exercise, sleep, the occasional trip to the doctor. But it’s really quite striking because there are decades of evidence that show that, in fact, probably the biggest contributor to our health is our relationships. It’s one of those things that, as a doctor, you see every day. The way that I got interested in this is I kept seeing patients who would defy their diagnoses — somebody with a really serious illness on paper looks terrible, but then you meet them in person, and they’re doing pretty well. They’re living their lives to the fullest, and even though they have an illness, they’re still thriving in many respects. The flip side of that was seeing patients all the time with what are treatable diseases or conditions, but they’re still not doing well. Or people for whom medically everything checks out, but they just feel really lousy or have pain that can’t quite be explained. That’s how I got interested in this. The data shows that while quality medical care is absolutely critical, access to it probably only accounts for about 10% to 20% of our health. That made me wonder, what else is out there that’s contributing? Knowledge@Wharton: There’s a lot of territory still to cover, correct? Harding: Absolutely. Genes definitely play a role, but what was so shocking to me is that they’re not as fixed as you think. Lifestyle is important, but again it comes back to our relationships. What we’re talking about is how we’re treated on a day-to-day basis in all the different areas of our lives — from our homes to our schools to our communities and neighborhoods, to our workplaces and our broader community. “Everyone knows it’s important to have a good doctor, but it’s also important to have a good manager and to give people the skills that they need to be good managers.”

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Everybody can appreciate acts of kindness. But when it comes to explaining why we do them, people often take one of two extreme positions. Some think kindness is something completely selfless that we do out of love and care, while others believe it is just a tool that we cunningly use to become more popular and reap the benefits. But research shows that being kind to others can actually make us genuinely happy in a number of different ways. We know that deciding to be generous or cooperating with others activates an area of the brain called the striatum. Interestingly, this area responds to things we find rewarding, such as nice food and even addictive drugs. The feel-good emotion from helping has been termed “warm glow” and the activity we see in the striatum is the likely biological basis of that feeling. Of course, you don’t have to scan brains to see that kindness has this kind of benefit. Research in psychology shows a link between kindness and well-being throughout life, starting at a very young age. In fact, even just reflecting on having been kind in the past may be enough to improve teenagers’ mood. Research has also shown that spending extra money on other people may be more powerful in increasing happiness than spending it on yourself. But why and how does kindness make us so happy? There are a number of different mechanisms involved, and how powerful they are in making us feel good may depend on our personalities. 1. CONTAGIOUS SMILING Being kind is likely to make someone smile and if you see that smile for yourself, it might be catchy. A key theory about how we understand other people in neuroscience suggests that seeing someone else show an emotion automatically activates the same areas of the brain as if we experienced that emotion for ourselves. 📷Wait, why are we laughing again? Jacob Lund/Shutterstock You may have been in a situation where you find yourself laughing just because someone else is – why not set off that chain of good feelings with a nice surprise for someone? 2. RIGHTING A WRONG The same mechanism also makes us empathise with others when they are feeling negative, which could make us feel down. This is particularly true for close friends and family, as our representations of them in the brain physically overlap with our representations of ourselves. Doing a kind act to make someone who is sad feel better can also make us feel good – partly because we feel the same relief they do and partly because we are putting something right. Although this effect is especially powerful for people we are close to, it can even apply to humanitarian problems such as poverty or climate change. Getting engaged with charities that tackle these issues provide a way to have a positive impact, which in turn improves mood. 3. MAKING CONNECTIONS Being kind opens up many different possibilities to start or develop a social connection with someone. Kind acts such as a buying someone a thoughtful present or even just a coffee strengthens friendships, and that in itself is linked to improved mood. 📷Connected forever? Leo Hidalgo/Flickr, CC BY-SA Similarly, charities offer the opportunity to connect with someone on the other side of the world through donating to improve their life. Volunteering also opens up new circles of people to connect with, both other volunteers and those you are helping. 4. A KIND IDENTITY Most people would like to think of themselves as a kind person, so acts of kindness help us to demonstrate that positive identity and make us feel proud of ourselves. In one recent study, even children in their first year of secondary school recognised how being kind can make you feel “better as a person … more complete”, leading to feelings of happiness. This effect is even more powerful when the kind act links with other aspects of our personality, perhaps creating a more purposeful feeling. For example, an animal-lover could rescue a bird, an art-lover could donate to a gallery or a retired teacher could volunteer at an after-school group. Research suggests that the more someone identifies with the organisation they volunteer for, the more satisfied they are. 5. KINDNESS COMES BACK AROUND Work on the psychology of kindness shows that one out of several possible motivations is reciprocity, the returning of a favour. This can happen directly or indirectly. Someone might remember that you helped them out last time and therefore be more likely to help you in the future. It could also be that one person being kind makes others in the group more kind, which lifts everyone’s spirits. Imagine that you bake cakes for the office and it catches on so someone does it each month. That is a lot more days that you’re getting cakes than providing them. The story doesn’t end there. Being kind may boost your mood, but research has also shown that being in a good mood can make you more kind. This makes it a wonderful two-way relationship 

he virus may keep us apart, but kindness will keep us together Give help if you can, or get help if you are in need

The British Red Cross has supported people in crisis for over 150 years. Our belief in the power of kindness has helped us through two world wars. And now, more than ever, it is kindness that will keep us together. Whether you want to give or get help, we are here for you. The coronavirus outbreak is an unfolding global health emergency that is affecting the way every one of us goes about our daily lives. In these uncertain times, kindness has the power to make a bigger difference than ever before. Whether it’s reaching out to a vulnerable neighbour or simply thinking of the needs of others as you do your weekly shop, we all have a part to play in supporting each other through the crisis. Even though we're physically apart right now, there's one thing that will keep us together: kindness There has already been a surge in acts of kindness across the country, as people step forward to look out for others. Over 70,000 people have signed up as community reserve volunteers for the British Red Cross, with more joining the Movement every day. If you remain healthy, safe, and well we would love to have you on our team of volunteers. You could be doing anything from helping at your local food bank to playing a vital role in easing the pressure on the NHS by delivering essential goods and supplies. Or, if you’d like to support our work in other ways, you can also donate to the UK Crisis Appeal. This page will be regularly updated with the links you need, whether you want to give help or get help. We don’t know how long the current situation will last, but we can promise that the British Red Cross will be here to support your community, every step of the way.

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ALL OF OUR #BEKIND KEYRINGS HAVE NOW BEEN GIVEN AWAY! This week we're launching our #BeKind keyrings as part of this year's Anti-Bullying Week. Children across the country will be able to pick up the keyrings FREE from high street stationery store Smiggle to show their support for the campaign. A total of 100,0000 limited edition keyrings have been produced and they can be collected from Smiggle stores nationwide. Smiggle stores list See Terms and Conditions - The keyrings will be given away on a first come first served basis - If you are under the age of 16 you must be accompanied by an adult when collecting a keyring in store - A maximum of ONE keyring per person can be collected Share your snaps with the #BeKind hashtag! Use your #BeKind keyring and post a pic on social media with #BeKind, you can inspire others to Speak Out, Stand Up, and #BeKind. Anyone under the age of 16 uploading a #BeKind snap to their social channels must ask for their parent/guardian's consent. ShareTweetPin